Have you ever felt like your life was passing you by and you had no idea where it was moving too? Don’t worry, Ive been there too. Many sleepless nights , watery eyes and you still tell yourself you are, OK. Yet, you can’t seem to shake the reality that you are not.
After years of circles. I finally, looked in the mirror and got real with myself. See, I was use to going to the mall and buying a nice outfit to cover up my shame. I would take a selfie, right after I got ready, and off to the club I went. Oh yeah, and I post my pic on social media too. Just to see all the likes and comments. Lets be real, some of y’all still do that now.
After the night had ended,I would look into the mirror and still be stuck with the real me all over again. The one, who was damaged as a kid. The one, who was talked about everyday during school hours by her peers. Yes, deep down inside that little girl was still there begging for a voice.
She wanted to know, that I remembered her. As, I glance in the mirror I spoke “I don’t believe, I’m beautiful.” Wow! Where did that come from? It came from a place within, I had given my 5 year old self a voice to express the pain, I felt from a childhood memory. Once I released that, I was free.
No more, spending money on unnecessary clothes to validate the pain I felt inside. No more dating men that never respected me. All because, I didn’t no my own worth. No more, settling for less than what God created me to be!
No more, doing for others with the expectation they would do the same for me. No more, sugar coating my thoughts to please others. No more, lying around waiting for the right opportunity. Its time, I create the opportunity.
Step 1. Look in the mirror and speak from within.
Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Vulnerability requires you to trust yourself. If you can’t be vulnerable with yourself, you will not trust anyone with your heart. Trust and vulnerability goes hand and hand.
Step 2. Pray the Serenity prayer.
The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
As it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
If I surrender to His Will;
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life
And supremely happy with Him
Forever and ever in the next.
Step 3: Begin to forgive everyone who has every hurt you.
Step 4: Write a vision for your life. (Proverbs 29:18)
Step 5: Invest in Yourself!